As a Dutch Erasmus student now studying in Cluj-Napoca, Romania, I’ve had a chance to reflect on my Dutch identity in ways I didn’t expect. Coming from Antwerp, Belgium, the differences felt familiar—Belgium and the Netherlands share a lot culturally. But moving to Romania was a different story, one that forced me to rethink aspects of Dutch culture I had always taken for granted.
The Dutch Love for Efficiency: Is It Always Best?
In the Netherlands, we pride ourselves on being punctual and efficient. Time is a precious commodity, and we tend to get straight to the point. However, in Cluj-Napoca, I quickly realized that Romanians have a more relaxed attitude toward time. Social events can last for hours without a clear end, and people are often late for meetings. Initially, I found this frustrating, but over time, I began to appreciate the Romanian focus on living in the moment. While Dutch efficiency works well in some settings, it can sometimes feel rushed and rigid. The Romanian approach made me reconsider how much we miss by constantly watching the clock.
Dutch Directness: A Blessing or a Curse?
Dutch people are known for being blunt—honesty is highly valued. But in Romania, communication is more indirect. Romanians prefer politeness and tact, and I found myself sometimes stepping on toes with my straightforwardness. This experience helped me realize that while directness can be empowering, it can also be alienating, especially in more personal contexts. I’ve learned to soften my approach and be more mindful of how my words might affect others.
Independence vs. Community
In the Netherlands, independence is celebrated. We are encouraged to be self-sufficient and to leave home early. But in Romania, family and community play a much more central role. I observed how close-knit social circles are, and it made me rethink the Dutch value of independence. While it’s empowering to be self-reliant, I’ve come to appreciate the strength that comes from being part of a close community, something that the Dutch sometimes overlook.
A More Nuanced View of Dutch Culture
Studying in Cluj-Napoca hasn’t made me reject Dutch culture; it’s helped me see it from a new perspective. Dutch values like efficiency, directness, and independence are strengths, but they can also have limitations. Living in Romania taught me the value of patience, emotional depth, and the importance of connection. I now see that a balance between independence and community can lead to a fuller, more enriched life.
As my time in Romania comes to an end, I return to the Netherlands with a broader understanding of both my own culture and others. Studying abroad has made me appreciate the nuances of Dutch identity and the ways in which other cultures can teach us to live more thoughtfully.
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